Guidance for surviving a break-up thingy :)

Hey readers , losing a loved one after a break-up can be a painful and emotionally debilitating experience. at times , getting out of bed and taking a shower might seem like a chore. like any wound , it takes time to heal which can be a long process. you might find yourself on an emotional rollercoaster ride with feelings ranging from denial , bargaining , anger , anxiety and sadness , to forgiveness , compassion , love , regret , guilt and eventually healing. 
One minute it might feel like you’re caught in an updraft and everything is fine , then the next minute you’ve plunged into a downdraft and are struggling for breath. if you’re wondering why this is happening to you , the reason will be clear later , just know right now , you will survive and you will get through it insyaallah ! :)


so today , i would like to share with all of you something , and yeah i know im not that tough MUCH but i've been gone through this thingy and thanks God for giving me much strength to move on. 

When You are Spiritually, Emotionally and Physically Ready ;

Acknowledge The Loss. 

When you have gone through the denial stage , reality sets in. Wow! That really happened. It wasn’t a nightmare. It was REAL. It takes time to acknowledge the loss. The most important thing to remember is Keep the faith! You are strong and you will survive ! :D

Take On Only What You Can. 

This is your time to nurture your soul. You do not have to be a super human and take on additional responsibility. Take on only what is reasonable within your mental and physical limits. Say “No” and pay attention to how good it feels. Right now, this time is about healing you!

Surround Yourself With Good Situations. 

If watching celebrity brides on the E channel depresses you, turn it off. If you don’t want to be around couples, then do something different. And like seriously , i hate looking for those couple hugging at malls as they SUCK me off ;pp You have choices and you need to make choices that make you feel good :)

Surround Yourself With People Who Are Supportive. 

Having a good friend in your life is important. You will want someone who will listen and be there for you when you are sad. Remember that , true friends hear whatever words that you do not say yet. *iloveyouuu GFss <3

Embrace Personal Growth. 

People come into our lives for a reason whether its to teach us a lesson or for spiritual growth, they are here to show us something. Once we take responsibility and stop blaming others for our situation , then our true path becomes more clear.

Rebuild Your Life.

When a relationship ends , it can be a painful journey , so take this time to re-focus your priorities , build your self-esteem , and look inward. Stop for a moment and ask yourself. What have I always wanted to do, to see, to be? This is your opportunity to embrace a new and better life. Be Open to Change :)

Cry.

Do cry as loud as you can , relief yourself like a newborn baby , it is not the matter. It is good for you to express yourself and let the anger and sadness out. but , don't drag every night keep crying like that because do realize that the other side is not deserve your tears a lot. It's so pathetic. Hee :D

Listen To Sad Songs

Okay , this is not funny or 'jiwang' , but it is the right time for you to listen those love songs. And believe me , in this situation , we just blame on the DJs because keep repeting turning on those sad songs is it ? and we feel that all those songs dedicated for us. Haha , booooo me if i felt it alone ! okay enough , but seriously , try to listen sad songs and it will make you relief slowly. Dah , now turn on your radio and do listen to Lagenda Budak Setan teheee ;pp

Empty Recycle Bin

Yeah , this is the toughest thing i guess. Dont ever let your brain keep thinking bout your memories. It is not good for our soul , seriously , instead it just make us feel down and upset. Just delete the pictures or whatever thingy he gave you or maybe , if you're not ready for that yet , just keep them away from you. until you move on someday , barulah boleh tengok balik semuaa tuu and start laughing at yourself :D

Talk To Your Bff.

It is okay , talk to your Bff who you trust most. Tell them what is going on , how do you feel. Then after sometimes , STOP talking bout that thingy again. Or even dropping his name in your conversation , relating his name with all incidents happened between you and him. What for keep relating those thingy is it , it is just a pat for you. Live your life , let your experience lead you for learning and living. If you have no one to talk to , do remember , we have GOD. Allah always there for us , always by our sides. Do pray a lot , and mintak lah semoga ditemukan dengan jodoh yang baik insyaallah :)

Having MUCH Fun.

This is what i did most. Stop hurting yourself , letting your mood swing against you. Show to them that you're not that fragile to be hurt to. life is too short to be unhappy is it ? :) so dont ever let your mind thinking bout the past , sikit sikit takpelah. when you have leisure time , calls your friends , hangout together and grab MUCH fun. you can do lots of activities instead of wasting you golden time thinking for that dumbass :D Opsie sorry ;pp

Change Routine

If last time , you keep on call with him till late night and now its all over. During previous time , every morning its your routine to wake him up bla bla blaa. But now , since he's gone , when you wake up in the morning , there's no more sweet text from him rite ? Yeah GIRLS , this is what we called life. Its a norm , i do understand how it works. But as time passing through , believe me everything gonna be fine :) change your routine. Okay , for example , when you wake up in the morning , try to find your mum and dad. prepare for their breakfast or in the simple words , make youself busier. It'll work well ! 

Date With Everyone.

If in previous , you don't have a chance to go out with anyone else besides him , so now is the time. Hello , im not teaching you becoming a player okay ! Haha annoy much huh ;pp But honestly , this is the chance for you to get to know people who are come from different walks of life. Make lots of friends and you may know it feel. But don't jump into conclusion , i said make friends and learn bout life much , not giving your pride easily to them ! Its a warning *buat muka serious niii >.< going out eating , watching movies or wahtever thingy you feel fancy , just do it. lagi satu reminder , this is not the process or like rancangan cari jodoh huh ! its just to get a good look of the outside world and what God does give to us , mankind :) 

Open Your Heart And Soul.

Okay no need to shut your heart and soul with a little padlock for long time , sweetheart. When you're completely moving on , do give youself chance to be loved again. Dont be too cruel to yourself , because it make you become worst jee nanti. Remember , someday , someone will walk into your life at the right time for a right reason. God send him for you , let you to know why it is does not worked with anyone else before. So , just open up your heart and let your Mr Perfect suits you ! :) 

HAHA , enough im not the Dr Love , im lack of idea now teheee ;pp Oh btw , on the road to success, there's a curve called failure, a loop called confusion, speed bumps called friends & red lights called enemies. So , moving on people , live your life ! :D